This article first appeared in the Christian Research Journal, volume 33, number 1 (2010).

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It is the desire of my heart to always remain the most authentic version of myself, to never lead a life that suggests there was no need for the blood shed on Calvary," Jakes wrote.

And as with any loss, big or small, time is needed to grieve and to reassess who you are, where you've been and where God wants you to go.

Healing is also necessary to follow God's command to" do unto others what you would have them do unto you," (Matthew ).

But what does starting over after divorce look like? You cannot see the forest for the trees; you cannot see around the bend.

In the aftermath of a divorce, every man and woman needs to decide how he or she will start over.

Like Jennifer, she needs some advice but is concerned about how she can make the transition into dating easy on her children. He'd like to date again, and some of his friends say he should start looking for a woman now — after all, he's getting divorced soon.

But John knows better because he's still married, and dating now would go against God's desires.

Paul David Tripp metaphorically likens our world to an old, broken-down house: The world you live in is a lot like that broken-down house. You see it in the environment, blighted by pollution and misuse.

Every single room has been dirtied and damaged by sin. You see it in government, often focused more on caring for itself than on serving the people.

For quite sometime I have tried to steer through some serious troubles at home," Henson wrote on her personal website,