I got over my preconceived notions about wimpy low-key guys.

I used to go for life-of-the-party types who aggressively pursued me.

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Is there an introvert in your life who you just don’t “get”?

Then on behalf of introverts everywhere, I’d like to thank you for making an effort to understand us better. First of all, let’s dispel a few common myths about introverts: Being introverted does NOT mean being shy. What it does mean is that we refuel by spending time alone, and we also spend a great deal of time just thinking — which is wonderful for creativity and such, but can lead us far too much time worrying.

“When I met my boyfriend Alan, I thought, ‘this guy couldn’t be less interested,’” says Washingtonian Sarah, 32. He just had a slower, shyer approach to asking me out.

He finally did, and we’ve been going strong for six months.

We are very good listeners, good at drawing people out, enjoy substantive conversation.

We don't chitchat very well, but we love to converse, which makes for a good date." Since introverts can be slow to warm up to new people, Dembling suggests they often have luck building relationships off group activities (a class or book club) or shared locations (a favorite coffee shop). Tell your date if you are someone who seeks friendship first or needs time to fall in love. Sometimes we get so flooded by first impressions and things to look out for, it's difficult to just feel what it's like to sit with this person. Or does it feel crowded, overwhelming, or make you nervous? We listen, pay attention, and want to be there for the other.You may scare away a few flakes, and instead attract people who will really appreciate you.2. If you don't like loud bars, don't go there. If your date won't allow you to get a word in edgewise, it's not the right person for you. Make sure you actually enjoy hanging out with your date.5. Make sure you get to be on the receiving end of the equation.The way I think of it: Extroverts sparkle, introverts glow.If you appreciate your own quiet glow, other people will see it too.", describing someone with a strong ability to turn inward and concentrate on their own feelings.And while Dembling says introverts may have a harder time meeting people to date, she maintains that "dating itself, however, is not hard for introverts because we tend to be most comfortable in one-on-one social interactions, where we don't have to compete for attention." "I think another misconception is that introverts would be dull dates," Dembling says.